A wonderful NLP tool was posted on another site as a link and I wanted to publish the entire message here. Please note that this was "borrowed" from someone else. This exercise is so powerful that I wanted to make sure that it will survive the evolution of the website I found it on.
This is an NLP exercise that can quickly help you to transform a lack of confidence into resourcefullness.
First I'll give you an example to illustrate how it can be used, then you will see a step-by step guide to try it yourself.
I recently worked for about 20 mins with a young man who had a few lines to read aloud in front of an audience. He was very nervous about doing this. He had a memory of a recent event where he had "really messed up" and had been very embarrassed by forgetting his lines.
I had him think about the task he had to do that very afternon. I had him identify where in his body he could feel the nervousness. Then I asked him to "shake that off" meaning literally shake arms and legs for a brief moment and take a deep breath.
Next I had him tell me about sometyhing he is really good at. He started to tell me about a computer game and I asked more questions.
Noticing him become more confident and at ease, I had him focus in on how he feels when he is the "leader of his guild" in his computer game. Good we now have a resourceful confident state and code name it " guild leader "
We were ready to begin. We worked for about 5 mins. doing the actual NLP exercise below. He left very pumped up and full of confidence, went to his presentation and aced his lines!
NLP Exercise
1) Being as specific as possible, choose an area where you would like to experience abundant self confidence. Think of a situation in the future where you would benefit from this type of confidence or resourcefullness.
2) Close your eyes and imagine being in that situation. Notice any feelings in your body. Notice where in your body you feel it. Now shake it off. Give that state a code name.
3) Place a piece of blank paper on the floor with the intention that this represents the coded state.
4) Now, think of a specific time in your life when you felt very at ease. A time when you were the King of your kingdom. You were aligned with what brings you joy, sets you free or makes you passionate. You were happy and confident that all was well in your world.
5) (After reading this paragraph) Close your eyes, and remember that time. Remember what it looked like. take 15 to 20 seconds to really visualize it. Remember what it sounded like. Hear the sounds that happened at that time. What did it feel like? Remember how you felt. Breathe in that feeling.
6) Place a paper on the floor several paces away from the first paper. Intend this one to represent your confident resourceful state.
7) Now stand on the resourceful paper and once again feel what that feels like. Take 15 seconds to really experience it again.
8) When that feeling is strong and the memory is vivid, you may now decide to offer your future self a gift. You can walk over to the other paper, bringing with you all of these qualities and confidence and step right into that future scenario.
When you stepped onto the paper, how did it feel? Did you notice any change in your body? In your emotions?
If you felt any of the same feelings as when you originaly did step 2, then go back to the resourceful paper and repeat steps 7 and 8 again. Take your time.
When you step onto that paper and into that future scenario and you feel all the same emotions and body physiology as you do in step 5, then you have created a shift!
The next time you enter a situation like the one you have been thinking of, a new neuro-pathway is now available to you. You can instantly access the other state. The one of confidence and resourcefullness.
Enjoy and have fun with this NLP exercise !
Credits: http://www.wellness-life-coach.com/NLP-exercise.html
and http://libertyleaguelife.ning.com/profile/WendyMatthews
Friday, May 30, 2008
Massive Power is Available to All
Every weekday morning I get a short email from "the Universe" - a service I subscribe to that has a daily message. Today's is one I wanted to share because it is so amazingly powerful and part of how I think.
The quote:
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All you have to do is think about what you want often enough that you start talking about it and moving with it, even if you have to fake it.
Your job is simple. Even if you only "attempt" to do it, you will have done it. The slightest effort on your side is leveraged 10,000 times on my side. A nod, a wink, a whisper are sometimes all I need; a demonstration that breaks the ice, beginning a domino effect of happy "accidents" and "coincidences."
If you do this, I'll do the rest. It is that easy. I am that powerful. Life is that magical.
Thinking of your smile, The Universe
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As you read it, realize the simplicity of this and how much you can have and create in your own life. The only limits to what you can have or are able to achieve are self imposed.
Do you want to be happy? Just have that flashing moment of thinking about being happy and the process begins.
Do you want wealth and abundance in your life? Yours to realize.
There is an abundance of abundance for all of us. It isn't a tiny container that can only hold so much and then is gone. Wealth is ever increasing as more resources are discovered and created.
Be bold and imagine all you can imagine.
The Universe can be found at www.tut.com
The quote:
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All you have to do is think about what you want often enough that you start talking about it and moving with it, even if you have to fake it.
Your job is simple. Even if you only "attempt" to do it, you will have done it. The slightest effort on your side is leveraged 10,000 times on my side. A nod, a wink, a whisper are sometimes all I need; a demonstration that breaks the ice, beginning a domino effect of happy "accidents" and "coincidences."
If you do this, I'll do the rest. It is that easy. I am that powerful. Life is that magical.
Thinking of your smile, The Universe
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As you read it, realize the simplicity of this and how much you can have and create in your own life. The only limits to what you can have or are able to achieve are self imposed.
Do you want to be happy? Just have that flashing moment of thinking about being happy and the process begins.
Do you want wealth and abundance in your life? Yours to realize.
There is an abundance of abundance for all of us. It isn't a tiny container that can only hold so much and then is gone. Wealth is ever increasing as more resources are discovered and created.
Be bold and imagine all you can imagine.
The Universe can be found at www.tut.com
Monday, May 19, 2008
Big or Small???? You Get to Choose!
This week’s musings brought me to that interesting choice and the choice that followed it. Which is worse, thinking too big or thinking too small? How many times, lately, have I heard someone say “I don’t want to be greedy” when asked how much money they would like to earn in their future. My gut reaction, of course, is “that’s too bad – don’t you think there is room for everyone to be greedy without running out of resources?”. So the troubling part of this is our societal concept of a “zero sum game” where there is a finite amount of resources and when only the rich people have all the money, none will be left for anyone else. What small minded boob first came up with that lie and how is that the one everyone follows? We live in a world of expanding wealth. The sum of the worlds resources are worth more today than they were yesterday and there are more resources available to us today than yesterday. I mean the basics are more plentiful – oil is pumped out of the ground daily, wheat and staple grains are harvested daily, money is coined and minted it many places on a daily basis. All this amounts to increasing wealth for all.
How do we apply these global scales to individual levels? Easy … each of us can see or visualize increasing abundance and prosperity for ourselves AND take steps to achieve it for ourselves. The really funny part is that all any real success takes is action. How many clichés do we have to describe the results of taking action? A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step … lots of different ones about moving a mountain one shovel at a time … start by starting and go from there is the solution.
Measure your successes on a minute by minute scale not by months or years. From the simplicity of successfully taking a breath to looking out the window to smiling at a wandering thought … each tiny action brings a tiny success. Tiny success build to having a successful morning or afternoon. These build into successful days, weeks months and finally years. As these successes accumulate, you will notice that economic success will become a participant in the game and, while not focusing on it, will become larger and larger as each new level of success is achieved.
When in doubt … choose success.
How do we apply these global scales to individual levels? Easy … each of us can see or visualize increasing abundance and prosperity for ourselves AND take steps to achieve it for ourselves. The really funny part is that all any real success takes is action. How many clichés do we have to describe the results of taking action? A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step … lots of different ones about moving a mountain one shovel at a time … start by starting and go from there is the solution.
Measure your successes on a minute by minute scale not by months or years. From the simplicity of successfully taking a breath to looking out the window to smiling at a wandering thought … each tiny action brings a tiny success. Tiny success build to having a successful morning or afternoon. These build into successful days, weeks months and finally years. As these successes accumulate, you will notice that economic success will become a participant in the game and, while not focusing on it, will become larger and larger as each new level of success is achieved.
When in doubt … choose success.
Monday, May 12, 2008
Isn't That Interesting?
I posted some thoughts about being an entrepreneur and looking for business ideas a few days ago. The reply that I received was from someone who can only see scams and traps in everything. How is it possible in these United States in this 21st Century that there are so many people who want everyone to live within the same limits they place on their own capabilities? My Universe has anyone and everyone being able to think, create and live as large as they can imagine themselves being, doing and having. And yet, I am somehow guilty of something criminal by not doing everything their way.
The really funny part is that the path I follow works for me and anyone who is willing to get out of their own way and take massive action towards success. I'm pretty sure my "critic" cannot make the same claim. What is my real crime? I require people who are interested in the business opportunity that I participate in to "follow" the system. Part of that system is that, to me, amusing function of a web site that gives little information about the opportunity. The intended purpose of this step is to weed out the impatient ones and makes it so the serious inquiries are the ones I get to talk to (and they get to talk to me).
I was reading an article in the news last week that pointed out that most of the people who are happy in the US are the ones who recognize that anyone can achieve success and the ones who are the most unhappy are the ones who think that if someone else is more successful than they are it is unfair.
My "fairness" doctrine says that anyone can play at my level or higher and I applaud anyone who succeeds.Wonder what kind of silly response I'll get this week.
The really funny part is that the path I follow works for me and anyone who is willing to get out of their own way and take massive action towards success. I'm pretty sure my "critic" cannot make the same claim. What is my real crime? I require people who are interested in the business opportunity that I participate in to "follow" the system. Part of that system is that, to me, amusing function of a web site that gives little information about the opportunity. The intended purpose of this step is to weed out the impatient ones and makes it so the serious inquiries are the ones I get to talk to (and they get to talk to me).
I was reading an article in the news last week that pointed out that most of the people who are happy in the US are the ones who recognize that anyone can achieve success and the ones who are the most unhappy are the ones who think that if someone else is more successful than they are it is unfair.
My "fairness" doctrine says that anyone can play at my level or higher and I applaud anyone who succeeds.Wonder what kind of silly response I'll get this week.
Monday, May 5, 2008
Thoughts from a Successful Entrepreneur
It constantly amazes me how often I see or hear about the "warnings" on the web about home based opportunities and the pitfalls, traps, scams and villains who perpetrate them on “unsuspecting” victims. Are the real “scams” easy to find or is the “voice of doom and gloom” scaring people away from opportunities that can and do provide a future to those who are able to follow in the paths of the teachers and learn how to do it for themselves. I, of course, would never tell someone to “pay for a job”. On the other hand, I don’t know of any real business that will generate real income that does not require capital to operate.
First thing that comes to mind when thinking about “scams” is one of those money deals where you “buy” in and get a daily reward for clicking on web links – now anyone who thinks this is a legitimate business is someone who requires daily care and a guardian.
Most of the time the opportunities that people say “beware of” are real businesses based in network marketing. These businesses have all the necessary parts of a “brick and mortar” without the need to have a building someplace outside of your home to use for your business. All have some variety of fixed business costs, i.e. telephones, internet, web sites … the costs that part of any business you can find. Additional costs are marketing and in some or many cases requirements for product purchase or participation to place you and keep you “in front of the money flow” and allow you to receive the profits. How much or how little is a reasonable amount to qualify and stay qualified is a variable that is up to the individual. In our business the fixed costs are less than two hundred per month and we qualified by a process where our purchases were counted. We are also able to “leverage” the time and efforts of others in our business to increase our income.
How can you tell which one is right for you and whether you can or will be successful? I’d say that starts by asking yourself a series of honest questions.
The first step in taking control of your future is to improve your “best thinking” … Albert Einstein said that you cannot solve a problem with the same quality of thinking that created it. Read books about personal development. Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, The Traveller's Gift by Andy Andrews are two that I like to get started.
First thing that comes to mind when thinking about “scams” is one of those money deals where you “buy” in and get a daily reward for clicking on web links – now anyone who thinks this is a legitimate business is someone who requires daily care and a guardian.
Most of the time the opportunities that people say “beware of” are real businesses based in network marketing. These businesses have all the necessary parts of a “brick and mortar” without the need to have a building someplace outside of your home to use for your business. All have some variety of fixed business costs, i.e. telephones, internet, web sites … the costs that part of any business you can find. Additional costs are marketing and in some or many cases requirements for product purchase or participation to place you and keep you “in front of the money flow” and allow you to receive the profits. How much or how little is a reasonable amount to qualify and stay qualified is a variable that is up to the individual. In our business the fixed costs are less than two hundred per month and we qualified by a process where our purchases were counted. We are also able to “leverage” the time and efforts of others in our business to increase our income.
How can you tell which one is right for you and whether you can or will be successful? I’d say that starts by asking yourself a series of honest questions.
- Do you want to have business or a job? Simplistically put a job is where someone else pays all the costs and gives you a small amount for your efforts – it could be commission or “fixed” compensation and you will always be making more for them than you will make for yourself. A business requires your money upfront and pays you the lion’s share of the reward.
- What is your income goal and what kind of income can you see for yourself? Are you capable of thinking in terms of hundreds of thousands of dollars per year or are simply looking to make a “few extra dollars” to make ends meet.
- Are you willing to do the things necessary to create your own success? Successful people make difficult decisions that the unsuccessful ones are not able or willing to do.
The first step in taking control of your future is to improve your “best thinking” … Albert Einstein said that you cannot solve a problem with the same quality of thinking that created it. Read books about personal development. Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, The Traveller's Gift by Andy Andrews are two that I like to get started.
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